CCG Blog

Thoughts, observations and information from our counseling staff. 

The problem with sorry

How many times do you hear the word sorry and disregard it immediately?

Regardless of age I dislike the word sorry. I prefer 'I apologize.' Sorry slips off our tongue with ease, frequently without meaning or follow through.  Instead, the phrase 'I apologize' gives us the opportunity to slow down our thinking. In doing this we focus on the meaning of the word and are more likely to be sincere. The word apologize gives us a chance to engage with the person whom we have harmed. At times, we might even find that it is not necessary.

Whether you impulsively say sorry, or say sorry without meaning it, the phrase 'I apologize' retrains our brain to be in the moment and thus, is more effective. So the next time you or your child says sorry, consider correcting them and explaining that sorry is a word we will no longer use. Just like any habit it will be a difficult one to break, but imagine the difference it could make.

If you find yourself impulsively saying sorry this may indicate areas worth exploring in counseling!

Sand Tray Therapy at a Glance

Sand is the ultimate form of expression- we are at the beach and we are immediately drawn to the sand beneath our toes- we draw in it, dig holes, build castles and more but why are we so drawn to it?

Sand tray therapy utilizes our natural desire to build and create in sand in an expressive, open-ended medium that encourages letting go and moving forward. When I was first introduced to sand tray therapy I was skeptical of its effects. What I quickly discovered is how naturally we are drawn to those very things that offer the most dramatic change in our lives.

If you are interested in an expressive form of recovery, sand tray therapy might be great for you! It is an opportunity to express without words, using metaphors, visuals and miniatures to process the events in our lives. Just think- this could be you! In only 45 minutes recovery begins.

Apologies

By Mike Prasse, MACC, LPC

Today I will talk about how to apologize well, since most of us are pretty bad at it.  We tend to do a quick 1% apology up front followed by 99% of justifying, explaining, excusing ourselves, and even blaming.  We learn to apologize while fighting with our siblings or on the playground and the forced apology we learn at that point often sticks as our only way we know how to apologize.

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